There are clubs that facilitate group sex for couples looking to engage with others as well as many media platforms on which to communicate your desire with others.

But group sex may not be your fetish, and there are many factors to consider when engaging sexually with more than one person.

Initiate by Engaging in Group Sex

If you want to engage in group sex, either as a single person, or with your partner, you should consider a few things before instigating any contact. Some swingers clubs have strict rules only allowing for women to initiate any sexual advance, while privately hosted parties might bare no rules. Always be honest with those you intend to engage with, and make your intentions clear when necessary. Although the allure of multiple sexual partners is difficult to resist, often the simple logistics of so many bodies, means that there will be that awkward moment when you are doing nothing. Be prepared to relax into the experience and enjoy the scenery, some people find themselves overly self-conscious in these periods, often to the detriment of the experience. Also be aware of what you are signing yourself up for, if you don't want to be filmed or engage in a particular action, make this clear from the beginning. Don't be afraid to assert your preferences, everyone involved wants to enjoy the experience and your needs are no less important.

Foreplay

If you are a single and engaging in group sex, be aware of your partners and their own dynamic. If you are with a married couple, and the husband prefers to watch you and his wife, try maintain his fantasy. Fulfilling others sexual fantasies is very arousing and affirming, adding flavour to your own experience. Remember to follow the guidelines you are given, don't try anything that has been forbidden, and if you are unsure, ask first. As an outsider to a couple, you might feel like a 'fluffer' in a porno, but bare in mind that the couple is just as keen as you are. Maintaining your cool and enthusiasm will only improve the dynamic.

As a couple, you and your partner should be wary of engaging in group sex with any willing participant. Talk to the person or couple you fancy first, get to know them a bit and perhaps share a glass of wine. You should be honest with any person involved, and outline the parameters of your and their responsibilities. If you are comfortable with the people you want to engage with, you should allow for the natural progression of events. Don't try to force anything or influence the situation, remaining calm is key to enjoying the sex. Always make sure that you and your partner are comfortable with the sex and have thoroughly discussed what you each want to experience. If you and your partner are engaging in group sex, it should be for the pleasure of both of you and something you can enjoy together. Communication is vital in avoiding emotional complications as well as achieving the level of euphoria desired from the experience. Your partner is there to protect you and pleasure you, don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

Pause & check your safety

When getting into the thick of it, you may want to pause and check your safety. Are you and anyone involved wearing a condom? Should they/you be? As tempting as bareback is, especially at the height of arousal, group sexual encounters can often be with people you may not know. You won't know their sexual history or anything else that might be dangerous to your health, such as intravenous drug use. Many clubs that host swingers parties will provide condoms for the participants, but if you are hosting or attending a private event, best come packing. Whilst maximising your own pleasure is always of high priority, be sensitive to others needs too. If your partner wants you to slow down or perhaps watch her with another man, allow for her to guide you through the experience. You will find that when your partner is fulfilled in these situations, your experience will reach new heights and you will be more open to engaging in group sex again. Having asserted your boundaries prior to any engagement, don't be scared to say no. If at any time during the sex you are not comfortable with the conduct, remove yourself from the room. There is no need to make fuss or disrupt others, unless the conduct requires the intervention of others, simply leave the area and if at an official club, report the incident to the managers.

Almost... Almost... Almost...

The final moments of your sexual intercourse are often distinctly marked, “You'll know when I've had enough” said the comedian Bill Hicks. When achieving climax, be very aware of those around you. Are you cumming too soon? Are your partners satisfied? Do you feel satisfied? Do you want to discontinue the intercourse or just take a break on the sideline? There are many aspects to a successful orgy, but the participants enjoyment is the most pertinent. If you and your partners are comfortable and aroused, the intercourse will follow naturally and you will experience new levels of pleasure.

The Glow

The after (group) sex glow is most obvious in men. Strutting about with the pride of a lion, many men might relish in the retelling of their encounter. However try and maintain a fair amount of discretion when discussing your experience. You wouldn't want the other people involved to be discussing your intimate moments with their friends, and so you should not discuss theirs. Further, some of your friends might take a conservative perspective on the matter and dismiss the event as unwise or immoral. Avoiding engaging in these conflicts should always be your primary goal, the futility of arguing with emotionally motivated people is none the more clearer than when it comes to sex. Try and maintain your secrecy, but always be open to new partners. Start slowly when talking to someone you are interested in. Get to know the person and their desires, try and understand the type of sexual fantasy they want and work toward achieving it. Don't be pushy or aggressive, you want the sex to be intimate but primal. These interactions are meant for the exploration and discovery of your own desires and pleasures, while doing so in a comfortable and safe setting.


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